The last two weeks of my trip have come and gone and now I find myself writing the final post of this trip. As I sit at home reflecting over the past three months, trying to distill my experiences down into meaningful lessons and stories, I have decided to move away from my traditional format of events and pictures and instead will attempt to summarize all that I have learned.
Ditch the plan
Trust me, planning is overrated. Sure there are some necessary bits like finding a place to stay and figuring out how to get to the next city, but do yourself a favor and don't schedule out your time down to the minute. First of all, planning is exhausting, especially if you are traveling with others and are also confronted with the impossible task of making everyone happy. Secondly, and more importantly, over-planning can severely restrict the random encounters you participate in. Grabbing a couple of beers with a group of strangers you met at your hostel will probably be a way more memorable experience than seeing that church that looks exactly like every other church you have ever seen.
Preparation is still important, however. I'm a type A personality so I feel the need to research but instead of scheduling out every day I like to simply prepare a list of things I would like to do and execute a certain number of those things in a given day. That way if something does come up you can always just shift the item you would have missed out on to the next day. This manner of preparation applies to attractions in a city, cities in a country, or even countries in a continent. Pat and I were on the fence about going to Bolivia but after hearing such rave reviews from a guy that we traveled with we decided that we had to go.
Be flexible; let random encounters happen and enjoy them to the fullest.
Never stop learning
This one may seem odd to some of you, as traveling is your time to escape the structure that learning implies. However, if you are like me, there comes a point where you get tired of simply experiencing and start to crave more active mental pursuits. I believe that one's waking hours can divided into two broad categories, one based in experiencing and one based in learning. Now of course these two categories bleed together, as there are experiences to appreciate while learning and lessons to be learned while experiencing, but what I am referring to are the segments of life where you set out to simply exist and appreciate versus those in which you choose to actively improve yourself. I think these two categories must always be in balance, as when you have too much of one you start to crave the other and then the pendulum swings the opposite way. This constant flux is not sustainable. Instead, time for both needs to be carved out every week. In order to appreciate one you need the presence of the other.
This is why I enjoyed blogging on this trip. It gave me a concrete skill to hone while soaking in the incredible experiences around me.
Be patient with yourself
This is an important corollary to the above. When learning a new skill there will come a point where things will get incredibly frustrating and giving up seems like an appealing option. These are the moments where it is crucial to take a step back and remind yourself why you chose to learn this skill in the first place. Nobody else is watching so it is up to you to keep yourself on track.
When I first got to South America the process of learning Spanish was incredibly frustrating. To put it simply, I just felt dumb, unable to understand anybody around me. All I could do was continue to remind myself to focus on my progress rather than getting caught up on my failures. Not to say that my Spanish is great now but I am miles better than where I was three months ago when the only Spanish sentence I could put together was "Vamos a la playa."
Incorporate others
I consider myself an introvert so I was excited to have some time alone when I split up from Pat to go up to Huanchaco, a small, sleepy surfing town on the north side of Peru. It was nice for a couple of days, giving me time to relax and write but eventually I realized how much I missed having people around. Experiences are simply richer with a friend. Sometimes it's because the experience is difficult and you need a helping hand. Sometimes the way forward is ambiguous so you want another person to bounce ideas off of. Sometimes the day is just so damn beautiful and you want someone to share it with. This trip has given me a real appreciation for sharing experiences with others so thanks to Rigo, Ricardo, Marco, Elina, Lotem, Damir, Micha, Gavin, Audrey, and Pat for all the help during the bad times and laughs during the good ones.
Ask questions
I've come to the realization that I don't know shit. And neither does Trip Advisor. To really dig into a city you need to connect with the locals. They can lead you to the freshest ceviche served by an old lady of a shack, the best place to watch the sunset, and the best place to get cold lemonade on a hot sunny day. And it goes beyond just finding the best places, the satisfaction gained from engaging in a genuine human interaction with a complete stranger pays for itself. Plus the analysis paralysis that comes with choosing between all the 4.5 star restaurants in a city can be avoided by simply putting the decision in the hands of a stranger.
What's Next?
Luckily I don't have to immediately return to the real world of work and responsibilities. My brother Peter and I are going to be taking the John Wayne Pioneer Trail across Washington, me by bike and him running the entire thing. So essentially I have to play the role of pack mule. I couldn't be more excited for this trip though, as I will have plenty of time for reading, photography, and napping in the shade. I'll be gone for about two weeks but I'm excited to share the experience with you all when I get back.
I want to give everyone a shout out for sticking with me and reading this blog, it means a ton to hear that people actually enjoy my ramblings and photography. I have found myself appreciating the process more than I ever thought I would so I will keep it going for the foreseeable future. Until next time, enjoy your summer to the fullest and keep on learning!